Relief for Valentine’s Day romance


The worst holiday of the year is closing in on us. Yes, Valentine’s Day. When men everywhere panic. Wives feel pressure to be positive about almost any thoughtful gesture. Single women mourn their lack of love. What’s not to love?

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt,” according to the modern philosopher and inventor of Charlie Brown, Charles M. Schulz. (Thanks to for the quotes today)

That’s why we invented Cheap and Easy Gals. It actually started out as Cheap and Easy Gals’ Night Out. We liked the shorter name because we think it’s funnier.

The idea is to get a bunch of fun women together without putting pressure on anyone, thus the evening’s plans must be cheap and easy. We’ve met in homes for Bunko tourneys or taught ourselves to roll sushi. Sushi, when you roll it yourself is a lot cheaper and just as yummy. We don’t wear white gloves or sip tea with our pinkies up.

If you don’t have plans for Valentine’s, I hope you will borrow our idea. Maybe Cheap and Easy Gals will become a thing. Wouldn’t it be great if men everywhere were relieved from the pressure of having to manufacture romance. I don’t know about you, but pressure totally short-circuits the whole idea of romance for me.

Valentine’s Day is the perfect evening for a Cheap and Easy Gals’ Night Out. For single friends, the bonus is unexpected fellowship on a day when single gals expect to be sad, bitter, hilarious, all simultaneously. If your have a boyfriend or hubby, it’s a double blessing. You get to laugh and mock everyone else with your single friends and still go out later with your sweetheart. Your sweetheart gets permission to surprise you with dinner out on a night when restaurants are not packed with couples.

Do I sound jaded? If you love Valentine’s Day and your sweetheart is champion of romantic adventures, congratulations. I am just romantic enough to believe Prince Charmings exist. I hope you enjoy red roses, chocolate, candle light and all the love that goes with those romantic gestures.

“Oh, if it be to choose and call thee mine, love, thou art every day my Valentine!” wrote Thomas Hood, English poet, author and humorist, sometimes called England’s finest poet of the 1800’s.

I think Hood was on to something. The pressure to be creative for one big day can sap all energy to cherish each other every day. If your sweet heart looks like a deer in the headlights as the holiday of love approaches, why not give the guy a break? Letting him off the hook might be the most romantic thing you could do for him. With the bonus of being cheapest and easiest, too.

Cathy Primer Krafve, aka Checklist Charlie, lives and writes with a Texas twang. Contact her at


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